Have you ever found yourself staying up late to finish a work project that was not even your responsibility?
Or maybe you’ve felt overwhelmed because you’re constantly interrupted by coworkers while you’re trying to focus on your tasks. If so, it might be time to learn how to set boundaries in the workplace. 🤷♀️
Setting boundaries at work is a delicate art form. It’s about respecting your own needs and limits, while also respecting those of others. It’s about creating clear expectations for yourself and others and promoting a healthy work-life balance.
This is not about being selfish or uncooperative, but about maintaining your mental health and ensuring your productivity at work. 🧠
When we think of boundaries, we often think of physical boundaries. But in the workplace, boundaries can also be mental, emotional, and even digital. These boundaries are just as crucial for maintaining your well-being and productivity at work.
Establishing boundaries at work is vital for several reasons. First and foremost, it helps protect your mental and physical health. Constantly taking on extra work, dealing with interruptions, or feeling pressure to always be available can lead to stress, burnout, and even physical health problems.
At the end of the day… that’s not what you came to work for. 😑
Boundaries also help to improve productivity. When you set clear expectations about your availability and your workload, you can focus more effectively on your tasks without distractions or interruptions.
This enables you to perform your work more efficiently and effectively, which can improve your job satisfaction and career progression. 💼
Furthermore, setting boundaries can improve your relationships at work. When everyone understands each other’s boundaries, there is less chance for misunderstandings or conflicts. This leads to a more positive and respectful work environment, where everyone feels valued and heard.
Setting boundaries at work is not always easy. One of the biggest challenges is the fear of how others will react. You may worry that you will be seen as uncooperative, lazy, or not a team player.
This fear can be especially strong in workplaces with a culture of overwork, where taking on extra work or being always available is seen as a sign of commitment and dedication.
Another challenge is the lack of clarity about what is expected of you. Without clear job descriptions or guidelines, it can be hard to know where your responsibilities begin and end, which makes it hard to set boundaries. 😬
Setting boundaries requires good communication skills. It requires being able to express your needs and limits clearly and assertively, without being aggressive or passive-aggressive. This is a skill that many people struggle with, but it can be learned and improved with practice! 😊
Setting boundaries at work involves several steps. The first step is to clarify your needs and limits. Think about what you need to do your job effectively and maintain your well-being.
This might include having uninterrupted time to focus on your work, not checking emails outside of working hours, or not taking on tasks that are not part of your job description. 📧
Once you have clarified your boundaries, the next step is to communicate them clearly. This involves expressing your needs and limits assertively, but also respectfully. It’s important to explain the reasons for your boundaries and be open to discussion and negotiation.
The final step is to enforce your boundaries. This means sticking to your limits, even when it’s uncomfortable or difficult. It also means dealing with boundary violations assertively and constructively, without resorting to aggression or passive aggression. 😇
Maintaining boundaries with coworkers can be particularly tricky. Here are a few tips to help.
Firstly, lead by example. If you respect others’ boundaries, they are more likely to respect yours. 🤷♀️
Secondly, be consistent. If you enforce your boundaries sometimes but not others, people will get confused and may not take your boundaries seriously.
Finally, remember that it’s okay to say no. You don’t have to agree to every request or favour. It’s okay to prioritise your own needs and limits. You deserve it. ❤️
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Unfortunately, even with clear communication, boundary violations can still occur. When this happens, it’s important to address the issue promptly and assertively. 🤷♀️
Start by calmly explaining the problem and why it’s a problem for you. Then, suggest a solution or alternative. If the violation continues, it may be necessary to involve a supervisor or HR.
At the end of the day.. you can’t make someone listen to you. So somtimes going above thier head is the only thing left to do. 🤷♀️
Management plays a crucial role in reinforcing workplace boundaries. They can set the tone for the workplace culture, provide clear expectations and guidelines, and model respectful behavior. 🤗
They can also support employees in setting and maintaining their boundaries, and intervene when boundary violations occur.
Here are few examples of what management should be doing:
In conclusion, setting boundaries at work is a vital skill for maintaining your wellbeing and productivity, and fostering positive work relationships.
It’s not always easy, but with clarity, communication, and consistency, it’s definitely achievable. So don’t be afraid to stand up for your needs and limits. You deserve to work in an environment that respects and supports your boundaries. ❤️
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Want to be successful in life? Learn how to have Self-discipline.
Success requires discipline and discipline is required for you stay committed to your goals.
Let’s face it, staying committed to anything let alone a goal can be difficult. Life has a way of throwing unwanted surprises at you when you least expect it. 🙄
What do you think it would feel like to be deeply committed to your goals and 100% knew that there is absolutely nothing out there that can stop you in your tracks?
Yes, something can come at you and slow you down, but your persistence is so prominent that you will stop at nothing until that goal has been completed. 🤔
In other words, what would it feel like to be the person who would walk through walls to meet their purpose in life?
Life will continuously test your resolve to see how much you desire your goal.
Are you ready to stop half-assing your commitments and stay on the journey towards your goals?
Well, read on!
So how do you stay committed to your goals? Here’s a list of a few ways to help keep you on track.
An accountability partner is like a partnership where you mutually agree to coach each other and provide feedback on a regular basis.
You and your accountability partner agree to either daily, weekly or monthly feedback sessions to share wins and talk about the challenges faced.
When you commit to someone that you will complete a task it stretches your probability of completion to 65%. Moreover, when you create a specific accountability appointment with a person you are committed to the odds are in your favour at 95%!
When you’re only half committed to a goal there’s a tendency to keep the door open for other options. We think, sure I’m going to start this diet BUT if my mum cooks I can’t offend her and not eat her food or If I’m too tired from work, surely it will be okay to order from UberEATS or Deliveroo since I don’t have the time to cook.
This is pure nonsense and not viable reasons. 😂
If you’re going to commit, commit wholeheartedly and remove all possibility in your mind of having an exit plan to get out of your responsibilities. There’s just one option: doing your commitment.
If you notice that you’re not upholding your commitment irrespective of not having an exit plan, ask yourself why you’re holding back. Are you going through the motions or have you given yourself so many commitments to uphold? 🤔
What’s stopping you from really showing up? Think about this resistance and ask yourself what it would take to deepen this commitment.
Depending on the size of the goal you want to reach it’s important to focus on the smaller victories you reach before you hit your final goal.
It gives you the momentum and the self-confidence to keep going. It’s self-empowering and a testament that you are on the right path.
There is a science behind this thought process too. When we accomplish something, it activates the reward center of our brains, allowing us to feel a sense of pride.
Dopamine is released and energizes us with feel-good emotions. This chemical helps you to experience the feeling of getting rewarded and can hook you on wanting to achieve more.
There are valuable lessons in taking smaller steps toward your goals, as they allow you to iron out the creases before pursuing your larger goal. The opportunity to get it right in the build-up phase is favourable than getting it wrong when it matters.
Remembering and knowing your why gets mentioned a lot in the blog posts I write because it’s a fundamental step to reaching success. Remember the deeper reason you committed to this goal.
💕Why do you do what you do?
💕Why do you love what you love?
Why is not the question, it’s the question.
Not only do you need to know your Why, you ned to remember it. You need to embrace it. You need to hold onto it when life throws everything at you.
NEVER let it go.
Big goals can seem daunting due to the amount of work involved to achieve them. It takes time to do anything worthwhile but thankfully we do not need to do everything one big chunk at a time.
Tackling big goals is all about the accumulation of daily work.
Writing a page a day doesn’t seem much but do it for 365 days and you have enough to fill a novel!
Figure out what your daily chunk of work is, and every day, no matter what happens, make sure it gets done.
“But I don’t have enough time” – Of course you do. We all make time for things we want to make time for.
If you can’t take 10-20 minutes out of your day to do something important to you then you need to ask yourself why. 🤷♀️
Got a hectic day and not sure where you can fit the time in? You find time the same way you find spare change – in the nooks and crannies. You find the cracks between the big stuff – your commute to work, your lunch break, just before you go to bed etc.
You may have to miss out on your favourite TV show or wake up earlier than you’re used to. Nonetheless, you can find time to work if you look for it.
No amount of education, connections or experience will carry you through life’s inevitable setbacks.
Without a strong and powerful motive you will find it extremely hard to achieve any goal.
Your hunger is evident in your daily actions.
How do you stay hungry?
Burn the boats – No way out
According to legend, Alexander the Great landed his invasion force on the shores of Persia then ordered his ships burned.
He said, “We go home in Persian ships or we die”. ⚓
Giving yourself no exit plan will raise the stakes and increase your likelihood of success and make retreat impossible. This relates to my earlier point of taking away choice.
To eliminate any other course of action is not to be a decision made lightly. Whether it involves quitting your job, a career change or investing your savings. When you’re faced with a choice between victory or certain defeat, you’ll be voracious for success. 🏆
Don’t give in to your excuses and give up on committing to your goals. We’re all able to create stories in our heads for giving up and then validate them by trying to look for evidence to support it.
Our minds have the ability to create any mental state we impose on them. 🧠
When you develop an insatiable hunger to commit to your goal, roadblocks are merely speed bumps and not stop signs.
Set yourself apart from the rest and gain the ability to get back on track and learn from your mistakes as soon as they happen.
The ability to do this over and over again until you get what you desire is what sets you apart from the low achievers.
Aim high, create a plan, stay committed to your goals and don’t stop until it’s achieved.
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Remember the time you were in school and were afraid of failing a science test? During those uncertain times, your mum would always tell you that if you just believe in yourself no force in the world could stop you from passing your exams!
Now that we have all grown a bit older, we still tend to doubt our abilities. 😔
Self-efficacy can play a crucial role in determining how confident you feel about yourself. So what is self-efficacy and why is it important? If you want to know the answers to these, this article is just for you! 😁
Self-efficacy is an interesting psychological concept. It is defined as an individual’s confidence in their abilities to be successful at any task they take up.
It is a measure of how much a person believes in themselves and how confident they are in overcoming any roadblocks they face in their personal and professional life.
People often tend to confuse self-efficacy with self-confidence, self-motivation, or even self-regulation. However, self-efficacy is an umbrella term that includes all these psychological concepts.
Maybe you already know your long-term life goals, the positive changes we’d like to bring in your life, and your professional goals. Great stuff! However, accomplishing these goals is a whole other kettle of fish.
Having a high level of self-efficacy can help you turn your thoughts into action and accomplish your life goals right away.
We all have our fears of obstacles and failing in life, whether it’s personal objectives or professionally. That said, setting goals and taking action to overcome these obstacles is the only way to move forward in life. 🤷♀️
Sometimes a goal can seem too intimidating to tackle, even when you feel like you’ve broken it down to the smallest step. This is where your self-efficacy comes into the picture.
It determines how you feel about yourself, how you behave when dealing with an obstacle, and what actions you take to overcome it. Here’s how a strong sense of self-efficacy can help you in life:
👉It helps you not get overwhelmed by your thoughts and feelings by keeping them under control in difficult situations.
👉It helps you to focus better on the academic front, achieve better grades and set higher career goals for yourself. If you have a strong sense of self-efficacy, you can feel more confident about achieving your life goals.
👉When you face any obstacles or failures, self-efficacy empowers you to increase your efforts and get a grip over your situation.
👉Self-efficacy can be a key factor in developing self-confidence and leading a stress-free life.
In order to gauge your self-efficacy, you can take a quick survey and ask yourself the following questions:
🤔Are you willing to work hard towards achieving your life goals?
🤔Do you think you can overcome any roadblocks or obstacles that might stop you from achieving your goals?
🤔Do you think you can bounce back stronger after failing at a task?
🤔Do you think that you can keep trying to achieve your goals in the face of adversity?
🤔Do you think you can keep your emotions under control when faced with a challenging situation?
🤔What do you tend to focus on – your failures or your achievements?
🤔Do you believe that you are competent enough to achieve everything you want in life?
If you gave a positive response to the above questions, you have a strong sense of self-efficacy. If not, don’t get disheartened. There are several ways to improve your self-efficacy.
According to several psychologists across the globe, self-efficacy is a key determinant of your overall health and well-being. People who believe in themselves have a stronger desire to achieve their life goals, a stronger sense of their interests, and the ability to bounce back quickly from setbacks in life.
They view every roadblock as a challenge.💪
On the other hand, a person who isn’t confident about themselves tends to steer clear of any challenges that come their way. They focus on their failures rather than their achievements.
Let’s take a look at how a low level of self-efficacy can affect your mental health and overall well-being.
If you are determined to bring a positive change in your life by improving your sense of self-efficacy, you can do so by implementing these three strategies. Take a look! 👇
The best thing that you can do for your personal development is to get out of your comfort zone.
Getting out of your comfort zone will allow you to embrace the opportunities life has in store for you.
While it might seem like a daunting task at first, just think about everything you can achieve in your life if you just find the courage to take the first step.
To get out of your comfort zone, you can try to take a demo class of a skill that you always wanted to develop but were unable to. You could go out with your friends and try to meet somebody new. You can even try to go to social support groups and listen to motivational public speakers.
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Don’t try to overwhelm yourself by setting unrealistic personal and professional goals. Inability to achieve such goals will only make you feel like a failure and lower your self-esteem. Instead, try to set small and realistic goals that you can manage to achieve easily by believing in yourself.
It’s a known fact that failures and obstacles are a part of everyone’s life. There’s no way you can avoid them. Instead of focusing on just your failures, try to look at the bigger picture. Think of your failures constructively and change the way you implement your actions.
Paying heed to positive feedback about yourself from your friends and family can help you develop a strong sense of self-efficacy. Also, avoid paying attention to any negative feedback as well. (very much different than constructive feedback) 👈
Listening to something positive about yourself from the people you love and respect can be very encouraging for your soul and make you feel more motivated about achieving your goals.
The most effective way to inculcate a strong sense of self-efficacy in yourself is by celebrating your little achievements. Patting yourself on the shoulder for achieving both major and minor milestones in your life is a must.
Failures might undermine your self-efficacy but the feelings of actively trying to achieve your goals is a step towards enhancing your self-efficacy. 😄
Self-efficacy will generate adrenaline in you, which will not only push you to work hard and achieve your goals but it will also have a positive impact on your overall well-being. Everyone’s life is filled to the brim with challenges and obstacles. However, only those who are self-efficacious can see what lies beyond such obstacles.
You got this 💪
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I can’t be the only one that has numerous amounts of notebooks, planners and journals that include daily, monthly and yearly goals that are scattered everywhere… can I? 🤔
Well, I can definitely say, that lack of organisation life is far behind me and I recite and look at my goals daily to remind myself why I work so hard. Ultimately it reminds me of my purpose.
Now I want you to be completely honest with yourself.
Do you write your future goals down and reflect on them daily to remember why you do what you do?
If not, why?
Is it because you see writing goals down as pointless because life has a habit of slapping you in the face every time you make a little bit of progress? Or is it because you’re scared to write what you really want to achieve because you don’t want to get your hopes up in case you fail? 😬
These points are excuses I’ve heard in the past (yes you read that right, excuses) and they end up crippling the person with anxiety because they have no clue which direction to go in and feel stuck. Not to mention the added pressure of knowing that their family and peers are ahead of them in the core areas of their life.
Does this sound like you?
Well my friend you’re in luck because in this blog post I’m going to give you the low down on all things goals and objectives and the positive impact it will have on your future. By the end of this post, you’ll learn how to set S.M.A.R.T goals and use them to your advantage. 😁
There’s a reason why high achievers in all fields set both big and small goals and use objectives to achieve those goals.
Without knowing what you want to achieve you’ll lack focus and attention which can make life feel like a chaotic whirlwind. Want to know how to eliminate this process? Learn how to set goals and achieve them.
How? You ask
Well, let me show you. 😌
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Goal setting helps us to create and visualise our desired destination in life. Could you imagine your life without goals?
🤔What would motivate you to get out of bed?
🤔What would drive you to work on yourself?
🤔What would be the purpose of doing anything?
Sounds scary huh? But that’s not what you’re about. You’re about creating a life for yourself that you envision every day. You just need a little help getting there.
Throughout this mini-course, you will learn practical exercises that will provide you with all the essential tools you need to start making positive changes to your life.
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Goals are long-term achievements that are future-focused but don’t include the actual steps needed to accomplish that said goal. For example, a personal goal could be “be more confident in myself” which is a great goal, but it doesn’t outline how you’re going to achieve it.
An objective for the goal could be “I’m going to do one thing that brings me out of my comfort zone every day for the next 30 days to gain more confidence in myself”. This objective sets out one of the ways to help achieve your goal.
Just stating what you want without planning out the steps is pointless. You’re essentially just making a wish that you hope will someday come true without doing much about it. 🙃
You’ll forever be disappointed and feel unaccomplished if you never do what you say you’re going to do. You will eventually stop believing in yourself which will result in lower self-esteem.
So to help stop all of that from happening let’s dig deep into how to set S.M.A.R.T goals. It’s a strategy I use in both my personal life and business life and it works wonders.
After establishing your goals you need to bring structure and trackability to them, if not, you’re more likely to not act on them or even worse, forget about them.
S.M.A.R.T goal setting allows you to have clear milestones and an estimation of the goal’s attainability. Think of the plan as creating a series of objectives that will ultimately allow you to accomplish your goal.
To make your goals S.M.A.R.T it needs to be: Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic and Timely. 😌
This is where we get to the core of what you actually want to achieve, the more descriptive and specific you are the more likely you are to get there.
S.M.A.R.T goal setting clarifies the difference between “ I want to make more money” and “ I want to earn £15,000 a month by next year July through my current passive income channels”. See the difference?
You can be even more specific than that. What are your passive income channels and how much money do you want to make from each one? The deeper you dig the more you understand your current situation and the steps you need to take in order to live your best life. 😊
✨ Where will I accomplish it?
✨ How will I accomplish it?
✨ When will I accomplish it?
✨ Are there any limitations?
✨ Why do I want to achieve this goal?
✨ Are there other routes I can take to achieve the same goal?
How can you measure your success and know when you’ve accomplished your goal?
This is can be only based on facts and usually stated in terms of quality, quantity, time or cost.
For example, if you’re goal was to lose 1 stone in 2 months and you never weighed yourself at the start of the two months you wouldn’t be able to know if you achieved your goal or not. 😶
Trackability in goal setting is important as you can keep track of the progress you’re making toward your goal. It always helps if you’re able to keep a journal to write notes on your progress.
This is where you break your goal into smaller steps and list every step as your goal needs to be realistic and attainable in order to be successful. When you set an achievable goal, you may be able to identify previously overlooked opportunities that can even bring you closer to it.
Ask yourself these questions:
✨ How can I accomplish this goal?
✨ How realistic is this goal based on limiting factors such as finances?
✨ Are there factors beyond my control that need to be considered?
Do you actually want to lose 1 stone? Do you really want to be more self-disciplined?
If you lack skills in certain areas to achieve your goals start planning to get training to boost your confidence in that area to make your goals more realistic to achieve.
Also, remember to reflect on your daily routine when setting goals. Setting a goal of waking up at 4am when you regularly go to bed at 1 am isn’t really going to work long-term. 🤷♀️
Ask yourself these questions:
✨ Why do you want to reach this goal?
✨ What is the objective behind the goal?
✨ Is this the right time?
✨Will this goal truly achieve what you want it to?
Every goal needs to have a deadline as it makes most people switch to action, if you don’t have a deadline the likelihood of you ever achieving that goal is pretty slim. 🙃
It will become one of those “ I’ll work on it later” goals that we all fall victim to but in the end we know it never gets done.
So, let’s say a big fat NO to those type of goals and slap a deadline on it and show it who’s boss. A time-bound goal usually consists of these questions:
✨ When does the goal need to be completed?
✨ What could you do each day to get you closer to your goal?
✨ Are my deadlines realistic?
Using this S.M.A.R.T method is an effective way to provide you with focus, clarity and the motivation needed to achieve your goals.
It’s time to ditch the vague and unrealistic goals that aren’t getting you anywhere in life and replace them with detailed, achievable, and intentional goals that help you get from A to B.
👉 Accomplishing the goal will lead to personal satisfaction and further motivation and dedication to complete further goals.
👉 Goals help motivate us to develop strategies and become more resourceful which will enable us to perform at the level needed to achieve that goal.
👉 When you set goals you are actively thinking about what you want/need which helps break you out of autopilot, allowing you to become more intentional with actions that align with your values.
👉 What gets measured gets improved. Tracking where you were from the beginning to your current situation will show you the progress (or relapse) you’ve made.
This vital information gives you a greater indication of what your next step should be. (+ If you have made progress remember to celebrate it! If you’ve relapsed, look at what went wrong and what you can do to move forward. Don’t beat yourself up about it 😊)
👉 Having goals gives you a laser beam focus on what you should spend both your TIME & ENERGY on (two things you definitely don’t want to waste) this helps eliminate low-impact tasks that contribute basically nothing to your vision.
Did you know you’re 42% more likely to accomplish a goal if it is written down? Doing this allows you to visualise the goal, see how you will achieve it and what steps you need to take in order to get there, so get all those goals out of your head and into a journal!
Heather’s top tip: Learning to be resourceful will set you up for achieving the goals that you think are unattainable given your current circumstances. Resourcefulness is a mindset that can drive you to find ways to solve problems and see the bigger picture.
It gives you the ability to visualise all the possible ways to achieve what you truly desire. Repeat to yourself: “I am not my current circumstances, I can have the life that I want”. 💕
“It’s not about achieving the goal. It’s about who you have to become in order to achieve the goal. The juice is in the growth”.
Are you now ready to start writing awesome goals and smash them out? Let me know in the comments what you’re working on!
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