Have you ever found yourself staying up late to finish a work project that was not even your responsibility?
Or maybe you’ve felt overwhelmed because you’re constantly interrupted by coworkers while you’re trying to focus on your tasks. If so, it might be time to learn how to set boundaries in the workplace. 🤷♀️
Setting boundaries at work is a delicate art form. It’s about respecting your own needs and limits, while also respecting those of others. It’s about creating clear expectations for yourself and others and promoting a healthy work-life balance.
This is not about being selfish or uncooperative, but about maintaining your mental health and ensuring your productivity at work. 🧠
When we think of boundaries, we often think of physical boundaries. But in the workplace, boundaries can also be mental, emotional, and even digital. These boundaries are just as crucial for maintaining your well-being and productivity at work.
Establishing boundaries at work is vital for several reasons. First and foremost, it helps protect your mental and physical health. Constantly taking on extra work, dealing with interruptions, or feeling pressure to always be available can lead to stress, burnout, and even physical health problems.
At the end of the day… that’s not what you came to work for. 😑
Boundaries also help to improve productivity. When you set clear expectations about your availability and your workload, you can focus more effectively on your tasks without distractions or interruptions.
This enables you to perform your work more efficiently and effectively, which can improve your job satisfaction and career progression. 💼
Furthermore, setting boundaries can improve your relationships at work. When everyone understands each other’s boundaries, there is less chance for misunderstandings or conflicts. This leads to a more positive and respectful work environment, where everyone feels valued and heard.
Setting boundaries at work is not always easy. One of the biggest challenges is the fear of how others will react. You may worry that you will be seen as uncooperative, lazy, or not a team player.
This fear can be especially strong in workplaces with a culture of overwork, where taking on extra work or being always available is seen as a sign of commitment and dedication.
Another challenge is the lack of clarity about what is expected of you. Without clear job descriptions or guidelines, it can be hard to know where your responsibilities begin and end, which makes it hard to set boundaries. 😬
Setting boundaries requires good communication skills. It requires being able to express your needs and limits clearly and assertively, without being aggressive or passive-aggressive. This is a skill that many people struggle with, but it can be learned and improved with practice! 😊
Setting boundaries at work involves several steps. The first step is to clarify your needs and limits. Think about what you need to do your job effectively and maintain your well-being.
This might include having uninterrupted time to focus on your work, not checking emails outside of working hours, or not taking on tasks that are not part of your job description. 📧
Once you have clarified your boundaries, the next step is to communicate them clearly. This involves expressing your needs and limits assertively, but also respectfully. It’s important to explain the reasons for your boundaries and be open to discussion and negotiation.
The final step is to enforce your boundaries. This means sticking to your limits, even when it’s uncomfortable or difficult. It also means dealing with boundary violations assertively and constructively, without resorting to aggression or passive aggression. 😇
Maintaining boundaries with coworkers can be particularly tricky. Here are a few tips to help.
Firstly, lead by example. If you respect others’ boundaries, they are more likely to respect yours. 🤷♀️
Secondly, be consistent. If you enforce your boundaries sometimes but not others, people will get confused and may not take your boundaries seriously.
Finally, remember that it’s okay to say no. You don’t have to agree to every request or favour. It’s okay to prioritise your own needs and limits. You deserve it. ❤️
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Unfortunately, even with clear communication, boundary violations can still occur. When this happens, it’s important to address the issue promptly and assertively. 🤷♀️
Start by calmly explaining the problem and why it’s a problem for you. Then, suggest a solution or alternative. If the violation continues, it may be necessary to involve a supervisor or HR.
At the end of the day.. you can’t make someone listen to you. So somtimes going above thier head is the only thing left to do. 🤷♀️
Management plays a crucial role in reinforcing workplace boundaries. They can set the tone for the workplace culture, provide clear expectations and guidelines, and model respectful behavior. 🤗
They can also support employees in setting and maintaining their boundaries, and intervene when boundary violations occur.
Here are few examples of what management should be doing:
In conclusion, setting boundaries at work is a vital skill for maintaining your wellbeing and productivity, and fostering positive work relationships.
It’s not always easy, but with clarity, communication, and consistency, it’s definitely achievable. So don’t be afraid to stand up for your needs and limits. You deserve to work in an environment that respects and supports your boundaries. ❤️
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What are you scared of? 🤔
We are born with two innate fears: The fear of falling and the fear of loud noises. Both these fears are an instinct necessary for survival.
So! Let’s get started on how to overcome your fear and live your best life.
I personally have a fear of crossing bridges where I can see what’s under me e.g. passing cars, rivers etc. I believe this relates to the innate fear of falling. As my main thought is “omg what if this bridge collapses”. 😬
This fear used to be so bad that I would purposefully take the longest route to avoid going on a bridge or even worse, not go to the location at all if the only option was to get on a bridge.
As you could imagine having a fear like that is totally annoying. It wasn’t until I went to Spain with my sister that my fear subsided.
One day we decided to go to the beach, and to get there we needed to cross this long, thin bridge above a very busy road.
The beach was just on the opposite end of the bridge, all I had to do was just cross it to get there. However I looked at it and thought “ nope, can’t do it. Too long, too thin, no way”.
To be honest with you I don’t even know if I could call this thing a bridge, it was practically a piece of sheet metal.
Nevertheless, I knew my sister was eager to get to the beach and relax in the sun and I didn’t want to get in the way of her enjoying the holiday. She gave me a pep talk and off I went following behind her on the bridge.
I walked as briskly as the sound of cars driving by and horn honking was making my anxiety go through the roof, my heart was pounding out of my chest and my legs were starting to go numb.
I looked down and to my surprise noticed something which made me scream “ OMG THERE ARE BULLET HOLES IN THIS BRIDGE I WANT TO GET OFF” to which my sister replied “Heather shut up it’s not bullet holes” we then argued back and forth over this rackety bridge regarding how these holes got there which completely distracted me to the fact that I was conquering my fear.
Once I stepped off, I felt extremely proud of myself and realised I can conquer any fear if I just “do it”. Sometimes it does take that helping hand of someone pushing you to help you realise your potential, especially if they’re able to help distract you while you’re doing it! 😂
I was prepared to put my fear of crossing the bridge aside as my fear of disappointing my sister was much greater.
^ No, this is not what the bridge looked like but it might as well have!
Heather’s top tip: Surround yourself with people who will push you to overcome the fears holding you back from where you want to go and what you want to do.
The most common fears we experience that sabotage our hope for success is the fear of failure, poverty and loss of money.
These fears cause us to avoid risk and reject opportunity when it is presented. We often spend years chasing opportunity and get comfortable with the chase, so comfortable that it becomes part of our identity.
When the opportunity is within our grasp we freak out and get scared. 😬
This is because of the potential changes the opportunity may bring. If you don’t deal with uncertainty well you’ll most likely create excuses as to why it’s not the right time for you to pursue the opportunity.
Here are a few techniques and tips to help you overcome your fears so you can become limitless
The law of reversibility says that “If you feel a certain way, you will act in a manner consistent with that feeling”.
So even if you don’t feel like it but act in a manner consistent with that feeling, the law of reversibility will create the feeling that is consistent with your actions.
This is one of the greatest breakthroughs in success psychology. You develop the courage you desire by disciplining yourself to repeatedly do what you fear until that fear eventually disappears.
When an opportunity scares us it’s usually because we fear we’ll make a mistake that can ultimately mess up your career, your personal work or just your life in general.
Nonetheless, the majority of opportunities that can come your way will not be life or death decisions. 🤷♀️
If an opportunity doesn’t work out, it’s not the end of the world. All it is a minor setback and a learning experience to which you can get back up, dust yourself off and carry on working towards your goal.
Opportunities pursued can just as easily be undone. Yet opportunities avoided are difficult to rediscover.
You’re probably thinking “Huh!? Why would I fear success?” but the reality is that success changes our lives more than failure and that thought can be really scary, especially when we’ve spent years becoming comfortable with the current way we live.
To clarify whether it’s a fear of failure or a fear of success you need to know your definitions for both.
Related: QUIZ: What does success mean to you?
Fear of failure often involves self-talk such as: “If I don’t try, I can’t fail” There is safety in standing still, not taking on new challenges or trying new things, all of these things can ultimately lead to “failure”.
Success for someone may be a salary of 500k and someone else may define success as a strong and happy marriage.
What is your definition of success?
What is your definition of failure?
When you identify fear and discipline yourself to move toward it and confront it, it grows smaller and more manageable.
The natural tendency of many people is to deny that they have a problem caused by fear of some kind. They’re afraid of confronting it which results in major stress, unhappiness and psychosomatic illness.
When you force to tackle your fear head on your self-esteem goes up, your self-respect increases and your sense of personal pride grows. 😁
Fear immobilizes and prevents us from achieving what we desire and what we are capable of. Don’t let fear kill your hustle before you even get started.
Understand your fear and embrace it. Fear exists to keep us safe, it is not inherently bad or good but a tool we can use to make better decisions in life.
These tips are my top ways on how to overcome your fear and get what you want!
What methods have you used successfully to overcome your fears? Let me know in the comments 🙂
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