We all want to succeed in life and reach our goals, but many of us are held back by a fear of failure. This fear can manifest itself in different ways: we may become anxious when faced with challenging tasks, procrastinate on important tasks, or even avoid taking risks altogether.
But the truth is that fear of failure is something that we can overcome, as these fears are formulated in our minds. By learning to be more mindful and developing the right strategies, we can start to unlock our potential and achieve our goals. 🫶
In this blog post, I’ll explore what the fear of failure is and why we have it, as well as share some strategies for overcoming your fear and unlocking your potential.
What is Fear of Failure?
Fear of failure is an emotional response that can arise when we are faced with a task or situation that we believe we may not be able to complete successfully. 😟
This fear can be triggered by a wide range of situations, from taking a test or starting a new job to making an important decision or taking on a new challenge.
When we feel that we may not be able to succeed in a certain task, we can experience a range of emotions including anxiety, fear, and even shame. This fear of failure can be so powerful that it can prevent us from taking risks, trying new things, and achieving our goals. 🙃
Recognising that failure is a normal and necessary part of personal growth and learning is essential. Learning from failures and using them as opportunities for improvement can help individuals cope with and eventually overcome this fear.
It’s important to remember that failure is not a reflection of a person’s worth, but rather a stepping stone on the path to success and personal development.
Reasons You Might Be Afraid of Failure
There are a number of reasons why we might be afraid of failure. One common reason is that we are afraid of disappointing others, especially if they have high expectations of us.
Another reason is that we may be worried about how we will be viewed by others if we fail. 👀
It is also possible that we may have experienced some form of failure in the past and feel that we are not capable of succeeding in the future.
We may also be afraid of failure because we believe that if we fail, we will not be able to move forward and achieve our goals.
Strategies to Overcome the Fear of Failure
Now that we have explored what fear of failure is and why we have it, it’s time to look at some strategies for overcoming it. Here are some tips for tackling your fear of failure and unlocking your potential:
Develop a Growth Mindset
One of the most effective ways to overcome the fear of failure is to develop a growth mindset. This involves looking at failure not as an end, but as an opportunity to learn and grow.
A growth mindset encourages us to take risks, embrace challenges, and look for ways to improve. It allows us to view failure as a learning experience and an opportunity to become better. 🤗
Take a look at our Personal Growth Bundle to find out more.
Visualise Success
Visualising success can be a powerful tool for overcoming fear of failure. Visualising ourselves succeeding can help us to be more confident, reduce anxiety, and take the first steps towards achieving our goals.
It is important to remember that visualising success does not mean that you will definitely succeed, but it can help you to build the confidence and motivation to take risks and move forward. 😀
To help with visualisation it would help to have a vision board. You can do this year by year or have an overview of the life you are trying to create. – Pinterest would be a great place to start with ideas.
Break Your Goals Into Smaller Steps
When we have a goal that we want to achieve, it can often seem like an insurmountable task. This can be overwhelming and can lead to fear of failure.
To help combat this fear, it is important to break your goals into smaller, achievable steps. This can help to make the task seem more manageable and reduce the fear of failure. 😊
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Accept That Failure is Part of the Process
It is important to remember that failure is part of the process of achieving your goals. Failure does not mean that you are not capable of achieving success, it either means that you have not found the right path yet or you just need to keep going. 🛣️
Don’t get me wrong, sometimes knowing when to quit and when to keep going can be hard. You have to think to yourself, am I going to regret this? or is this the best decision I can make for myself right now?
Accepting that failure is part of the process can help you to stay motivated and keep trying. It can also help to reduce the fear of failure and give you the confidence to take risks and try new things. 😊
Reach Out for Support
Reaching out for support can be a powerful tool for overcoming fear of failure. Talking to family, friends, and mentors can help to remind us that we are not alone and that there are people in our lives who are willing to help us. All you have to do is ask! 🗣️
Having a supportive network can also provide us with encouragement and motivation to keep going, even when we feel like giving up.
Celebrate Your Small Wins
It is important to celebrate our small wins and successes, no matter how small they may seem. Celebrating our successes can help to boost our confidence and remind us that we are capable of achieving our goals. Because you are! 🏆
It is also important to remember that failure does not define us; it is a part of the learning process. Acknowledging our successes, no matter how small, can help to keep us motivated and remind us that success is possible.
Conclusion – Unlocking Your Potential
Fear of failure can be a powerful emotion that can hold us back from achieving our goals. But with the right strategies, we can start to overcome our fear and unlock our potential.
By developing a growth mindset, visualising success, breaking our goals into smaller steps, accepting that failure is part of the process, reaching out for support, and celebrating our small wins, we can start to move forward and achieve our goals. 🎯
So don’t let your fear of failure stand in the way of your success. Start to take small steps today and unlock your potential!
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Your sense of self-esteem impacts EVERY area of your life. Your relationship with your family, your significant other, your career, your physical and mental health are all reflections of your self-esteem.
Even though having high self-esteem is indeed a good thing it’s only good in moderation. Having very high self-esteem – like that of a narcissist- isn’t something to aim for.
Even though people with very high self-esteem feel great about themselves they tend to be extremely vulnerable to criticism and negative feedback about themselves and their work.
When you take everything personally and avoid constructive criticism like the plague, you stunt your growth. You’re never going to stop making mistakes, so choosing to ignore the help of someone showing you the right way will affect you negatively in both your personal and professional life.
The only way to learn is to accept guidance and feedback. You’ll be doing yourself a great disservice if you believe you know it all and no one can do it better than you because the reality is… there’s someone else out there that is.
Why is building self-esteem so important?
The more self-esteem you have the more “inner stability” you have. When your opinion of yourself goes up you stop trying to seek validation and attention from others.
Your level of self-esteem influences the choices and decisions that you make. In other words, self-esteem serves as a motivational function by making it more or less likely that you will take care of yourself mentally, physically and emotionally.
When you have low self-esteem you may hide away from going to social events, avoid things you find challenging and be hesitant to try anything new. In the short term, avoiding anything that takes you out of your comfort zone will make you feel safe at the time but in the long term it will eventually backfire. This is because you’re reinforcing underlying doubts and fears. You’re essentially teaching yourself that the only way to cope is by avoiding things.
Here are a few ways to help build your self-esteem so that you can thrive and live a life that reflects who you truly want to be.
You deserve it girl!
Change your story
We all have a narrative or a story that we have created about ourselves that shapes our self-perceptions which our core self-image is based on. Your level of self-esteem may have grown or been reduced by how people have treated you in your past. The good news is that you have control when it comes to increasing your self-worth. If you want to change your story you have to understand where it came from.
For example, was it a teacher who made you made you doubt your academic abilities? Changing your belief on not being good enough is pretty hard. When you decide to change the story about yourself you look into your past to see if there is evidence of the new story you want to create.
Continuing with the example above, if you have successfully completed school with excellent grades and moved onto higher education, this alone shows you that you have accomplished a lot despite what was said about you in the past, you then start to realise that you’re carrying a false narrative of yourself around.
“Sometimes automatic negative thoughts such as “you’re lazy” or “you don’t do anything right” can be repeated in your mind so often that you start to believe that it is true” says Jessica Koblenz, Psy.D. “These thoughts are learned which means that can be unlearned.”
When you label yourself as “not that person” that can achieve XYZ, you limit yourself on what you’re capable of achieving. Letting go of life-changing opportunities because you doubt that you have the capabilities to do well is only going to keep you in your box of safety wondering what life is like on the other side of living your true potential.
You’ve got one life, go get everything you deserve.
Identify your triggers
To increase your level of positive thinking, you need to recognise what places, people and things spark negative thinking. Is it that bad vibe “friend” that’s always got something to say about something or that annoying co-worker who’s always telling you what to do even though it isn’t their job? You can’t change certain situations, but you can change the way you react to them.
The next time you get mad, anxious or sad write down what caused it. After a time, you will start to see a pattern of what your triggers are and what you’re able to do about them.
When we know our emotional triggers, we can choose not to expose ourselves to situations that affect us negatively and harm our mental health.
We are not in control of what other people do, we can only control our thoughts and actions. Next time you’re sitting in a situation that you don’t want to be in, sit back and ask yourself:
Why am I here right now?
Is me being in this situation going to impact me negatively or positively?
The answers to the questions should tell you what your next action should be.
Acknowledge your success
Usually, people with low self-esteem disregard their success by chance. People with high self-esteem take the time to celebrate their success. They appreciate the praise given by others and thank them for their acknowledgment instead of downplaying it.
Your success was not by chance, it was thorough hard work, dedication and persistence. You deserve to re receive every reward, recognition and praise that comes your way.
When you acknowledge what you’re good at, you become more confident about yourself, making you more likely to continue doing what brings you joy.
Whether you acknowledge your success by going out to dinner with friends, having a spa day, or buying something that’s been sitting in your online basket for days, take that time to enjoy how far you’ve come.
Recognising your success is a powerful motivator that reinforces the meaning behind all the hard work that you have done. This in turn boosts your self-esteem and motivates you to take the next step towards achieving the next goal.
Recognise that you are not your circumstances
Learn to differentiate your circumstances and who you are as a person. We are all born with infinite potential. To believe we are anything less than that is a false belief that is learned over time.
It’s not uncommon to think that what has happened to you reflects who you are. Didn’t get the job offer you wanted, now you’re not good enough. Messed up your diet, and now you’re someone who has no self-discipline.
FALSE
Taking a situation and associating it with who you are can only lead to your downfall. Controlling what happens to you is not easy, life gets in the way and can throw you off course. No matter what your circumstances may be, you have to learn to start separating who you are and what you think about yourself from what happens to you.
Someone who is devoted to going to the gym and keeping fit can still miss a day and eat snacks. Someone who is good at their job can still get fired.
Everyone wins some and loses some. Do not become your loses.
Celebrate the small stuff
You got up on time this morning. Tick. You flipped your omelette perfectly. Tick. Your downward dog was better than last week. Tick.
We’ve been conditioned to only celebrate the big milestones and achievements and not acknowledge the “trivial wins” as they’re deemed as non-significant. This is far from the truth.
You’re really celebrating your habits. You’re celebrating the person you’re becoming by continuing your good habits. When you show appreciation for your small victories you show appreciation to yourself.
Celebrating your small wins is a great way to build confidence and feel better about yourself while at the same time keep you motivated to carry on. Every success you earn is a success to your overall dream. You wouldn’t have got to where you are now without all those small wins, so acknowledge them and celebrate them.
Let me leave you with one last valuable tip…
One way for people with low self-esteem to start to appreciate what it would be like to have higher self-esteem is to consider how they feel about the external things they value in life. E.g. Some people really love buying, collecting and using make-up because it’s important to them.
They take pride in their collection and school people on the texture and application of different products. They watch countless makeup videos to help perfect their look and try new ideas because that’s their idea of heaven. Self-esteem is like that, except that love and proudness you feel is targeted at yourself.
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