We all want to succeed in life and reach our goals, but many of us are held back by a fear of failure. This fear can manifest itself in different ways: we may become anxious when faced with challenging tasks, procrastinate on important tasks, or even avoid taking risks altogether.
But the truth is that fear of failure is something that we can overcome, as these fears are formulated in our minds. By learning to be more mindful and developing the right strategies, we can start to unlock our potential and achieve our goals.
In this blog post, I’ll explore what the fear of failure is and why we have it, as well as share some strategies for overcoming your fear and unlocking your potential.
Fear of failure is an emotional response that can arise when we are faced with a task or situation that we believe we may not be able to complete successfully. 😟
This fear can be triggered by a wide range of situations, from taking a test or starting a new job to making an important decision or taking on a new challenge.
When we feel that we may not be able to succeed in a certain task, we can experience a range of emotions including anxiety, fear, and even shame. This fear of failure can be so powerful that it can prevent us from taking risks, trying new things, and achieving our goals. 🙃
Recognising that failure is a normal and necessary part of personal growth and learning is essential. Learning from failures and using them as opportunities for improvement can help individuals cope with and eventually overcome this fear.
It’s important to remember that failure is not a reflection of a person’s worth, but rather a stepping stone on the path to success and personal development.
There are a number of reasons why we might be afraid of failure. One common reason is that we are afraid of disappointing others, especially if they have high expectations of us.
Another reason is that we may be worried about how we will be viewed by others if we fail. 👀
It is also possible that we may have experienced some form of failure in the past and feel that we are not capable of succeeding in the future.
We may also be afraid of failure because we believe that if we fail, we will not be able to move forward and achieve our goals.
Now that we have explored what fear of failure is and why we have it, it’s time to look at some strategies for overcoming it. Here are some tips for tackling your fear of failure and unlocking your potential:
One of the most effective ways to overcome the fear of failure is to develop a growth mindset. This involves looking at failure not as an end, but as an opportunity to learn and grow.
A growth mindset encourages us to take risks, embrace challenges, and look for ways to improve. It allows us to view failure as a learning experience and an opportunity to become better. 🤗
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Visualising success can be a powerful tool for overcoming fear of failure. Visualising ourselves succeeding can help us to be more confident, reduce anxiety, and take the first steps towards achieving our goals.
It is important to remember that visualising success does not mean that you will definitely succeed, but it can help you to build the confidence and motivation to take risks and move forward. 😀
To help with visualisation it would help to have a vision board. You can do this year by year or have an overview of the life you are trying to create. – Pinterest would be a great place to start with ideas.
When we have a goal that we want to achieve, it can often seem like an insurmountable task. This can be overwhelming and can lead to fear of failure.
To help combat this fear, it is important to break your goals into smaller, achievable steps. This can help to make the task seem more manageable and reduce the fear of failure. 😊
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It is important to remember that failure is part of the process of achieving your goals. Failure does not mean that you are not capable of achieving success, it either means that you have not found the right path yet or you just need to keep going. 🛣️
Don’t get me wrong, sometimes knowing when to quit and when to keep going can be hard. You have to think to yourself, am I going to regret this? or is this the best decision I can make for myself right now?
Accepting that failure is part of the process can help you to stay motivated and keep trying. It can also help to reduce the fear of failure and give you the confidence to take risks and try new things. 😊
Reaching out for support can be a powerful tool for overcoming fear of failure. Talking to family, friends, and mentors can help to remind us that we are not alone and that there are people in our lives who are willing to help us. All you have to do is ask! 🗣️
Having a supportive network can also provide us with encouragement and motivation to keep going, even when we feel like giving up.
It is important to celebrate our small wins and successes, no matter how small they may seem. Celebrating our successes can help to boost our confidence and remind us that we are capable of achieving our goals. Because you are! 🏆
It is also important to remember that failure does not define us; it is a part of the learning process. Acknowledging our successes, no matter how small, can help to keep us motivated and remind us that success is possible.
Fear of failure can be a powerful emotion that can hold us back from achieving our goals. But with the right strategies, we can start to overcome our fear and unlock our potential.
By developing a growth mindset, visualising success, breaking our goals into smaller steps, accepting that failure is part of the process, reaching out for support, and celebrating our small wins, we can start to move forward and achieve our goals. 🎯
So don’t let your fear of failure stand in the way of your success. Start to take small steps today and unlock your potential!
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“If you want to change your life you have to raise your standards”Tony Robbins
Do you know what it means to raise your standards & what it takes to do so, so that you can live a life that you can look back on and say “Damn! I did that”?
Well, keep reading Sis.
How you’re currently living your life is a reflection of the standards you hold for yourself at this very moment. They are the SET behaviours that you regularly choose to do all the time.
Sadly, a lot of people say “I SHOULD” do this a lot more than they say “I MUST” do this. There’s an endless list of all the things you SHOULD do in your life to make it better, but usually, it gets left to slip through the cracks and be forgotten about. When you make something a MUST in your life you will be willing to cut off any liabilities and distractions that will get in the way of you succeeding and will 100% find a way or make a way to get there. No excuses made.
High standards are what separates high achievers from everybody else. If you have high standards, you are more likely to achieve the goals you set out for yourself, this is because with every goal comes a certain set of requirements that you have to meet in order to achieve it. These requirements are reflected in the personal standards you uphold in relation to that goal.
When you have high standards you have a higher expectation of yourself, you are naturally willing to do more than the average person, which subsequently raises your standards of performance.
Sometimes it takes hitting rock bottom in order to feel that you have to shift your should into a must. Maybe you said “I really should make more money” then a couple of months pass and you experience some hardship on the way and you realise that you’re left with £1.09p in your bank account with no savings, in debt up to your eyeballs and about to lose your flat. A situation like this can finally make you think enough is enough and convince you to make lasting drastic changes to the standards you hold to yourself.
Finally acknowledging that something must change is an essential first step to change. The change won’t be easy as there’s no quick way to change your current beliefs. Just how it took time to create them (both good and bad) it will take time to build new ones. Even if you try to fake it for a while you will eventually go back to your core limiting beliefs. Rushing internal work will never work.
Jim Rhon: “The things easy to do are also not easy to do” – In Layman’s terms, the things you should do are things that are easy to do, hence why you don’t do them.
Your appearance: Are you happy with your weight? Are you happy with the condition of your skin?( If it’s in your control of course)
Finances: Do you pay your bills on time? Does your salary reflect the value you give to your employer? What does your spending habits look like?
Relationships: How do you allow others to treat you? Do you allow people to not treat you how you deserve?
Accomplishments: How often do you achieve the goals that you set? Are you currently settling for an average life because you don’t think you can achieve more?
Your appearance, how much money you make, what your current relationships look like right now and your accomplishments are all examples of your current standards for yourself. Having low standards will only take you so far in your journey towards living your best life. With low standards, you will struggle to put in the energy and find the resources needed to achieve what you want in life and subsequently you will end up with sub-par results. When you raise your standards you raise your expectations of yourself and from the people around you.
To raise your standards you need to have a strong WHY. In other words, what is your reasoning to raise your standards? For example, saying you want to lose weight because everyone you know is trying to lose weight isn’t a strong enough reason. However, saying you want to lose weight so that you can live a longer, healthier life and see your children grow up and be there for them is a prime example, as the reason resonates with you personally, meaning you’re more likely to stick with it.
In order to raise your standards, the first step you would need to do is ask yourself “What are my standards right now?” What are you allowing to happen in your life? Sometimes we fall victim to letting ourselves off the hook because we set ourselves goals that never become a need.
Additional questions to ask yourself:
> What will I accept and no longer accept of myself?
> What standards do I have for the roles that I play in life (Parent, friend, Partner etc)
> Did I set these standards myself?
> Given the goals that I would like to achieve are my current standards hindering me in any way?
> Are my current standards getting in the way of me developing in any of the 8 core areas of my life?
The biggest reason people hate commitment is that when you commit to something (especially when you commit to other people) you HAVE to deliver. When you settle for just “trying your best” you give yourself lower expectations, making it “alright” if you don’t follow through with it because you gave it your “best shot”.
You’re unlikely to ever sink below your standards but how far are you willing to rise above them?
Raise your standards in these 4 areas of your life to help drastically improve the way you live:
Improving the state of your health is so important. Being healthy isn’t all about drinking green juices and eating kale 7 days a week. Imagine being energetic in the morning, ready to take on the world with a spring in your step and a smile on your face. Raise your standards on how much sleep you get, how well you take care of your body and how well you eat and it will take care of you.
Distraction is the absolute worst, it steals both your time and energy – your two greatest assets. Be more focused on what you want, every minute, every hour, and every day. Bring your awareness to this very moment right now. What do you want to be experiencing and doing? Being more focused allows you to be more conscious of your surroundings and make it easy to spot distractions.
As much as talking to new people and creating new friendship groups are awesome it’s important to be careful with who you spend your time with. Who you socialise with will have a great impact on what kind of life you would like to have.
As Jim Rhon once said, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with”.
Attitudes are contagious, be really picky with who you invest your time in. Your friends should shower you with support, exude positivity and have ambition.
Nobody’s perfect and everyone has bad days and flaws, learn to accept them if you feel that you both will help each other grow and are compatible with each other. When you free yourself from negative people, you are free to be you.
Healthy thoughts = Healthy actions. If you want to put quality thoughts into your mind you must create an environment that outputs positive energy.
If you raise the standard of your mindset you will be mentally strong enough to deal with failures and setbacks allowing you to conquer anything you put your mind to.
What happens when you commit to keeping your standards high:
> You increase your sense of self-efficacy
> You begin to believe in yourself more because you’re starting to achieve the goals you set yourself
> You attract more opportunities because you have more clarity behind your actions
> You become more self-aware of your current reality, allowing you to make clear and conscious decisions on your next step
> A higher chance of succeeding at anything you want
When you take steps towards becoming an enhanced version of yourself, you ensure an increased level of confidence, self-respect and self-discipline.
When you’re committed to being all in, you will see through whatever you set out for yourself no matter what obstacles or bumps happen along the way. Your high standards and WILL to succeed in your goals and objectives will be the motivation needed for you to continue on your journey.
You don’t get what you WANT in life. You get what you TOLERATE. Once you raise your standards, your life will rise to meet them.
No longer will settling be part of the norm. You will achieve ALL of your Plan A’s because Plan B’s are for people who aren’t willing to sacrifice and give up who they currently are for who they need to be.
This is the year of the breakthrough. Act like it.
Remember: Obstacles will equal opportunities to grow.
Heather’s top tip: Demand excellence from yourself. You’re a force of nature that deserves nothing but the best. Never give up and most of all raise your standards and never settle.
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