Have you ever found yourself staying up late to finish a work project that was not even your responsibility?
Or maybe you’ve felt overwhelmed because you’re constantly interrupted by coworkers while you’re trying to focus on your tasks. If so, it might be time to learn how to set boundaries in the workplace. 🤷♀️
Setting boundaries at work is a delicate art form. It’s about respecting your own needs and limits, while also respecting those of others. It’s about creating clear expectations for yourself and others and promoting a healthy work-life balance.
This is not about being selfish or uncooperative, but about maintaining your mental health and ensuring your productivity at work. 🧠
When we think of boundaries, we often think of physical boundaries. But in the workplace, boundaries can also be mental, emotional, and even digital. These boundaries are just as crucial for maintaining your well-being and productivity at work.
Establishing boundaries at work is vital for several reasons. First and foremost, it helps protect your mental and physical health. Constantly taking on extra work, dealing with interruptions, or feeling pressure to always be available can lead to stress, burnout, and even physical health problems.
At the end of the day… that’s not what you came to work for. 😑
Boundaries also help to improve productivity. When you set clear expectations about your availability and your workload, you can focus more effectively on your tasks without distractions or interruptions.
This enables you to perform your work more efficiently and effectively, which can improve your job satisfaction and career progression. 💼
Furthermore, setting boundaries can improve your relationships at work. When everyone understands each other’s boundaries, there is less chance for misunderstandings or conflicts. This leads to a more positive and respectful work environment, where everyone feels valued and heard.
Setting boundaries at work is not always easy. One of the biggest challenges is the fear of how others will react. You may worry that you will be seen as uncooperative, lazy, or not a team player.
This fear can be especially strong in workplaces with a culture of overwork, where taking on extra work or being always available is seen as a sign of commitment and dedication.
Another challenge is the lack of clarity about what is expected of you. Without clear job descriptions or guidelines, it can be hard to know where your responsibilities begin and end, which makes it hard to set boundaries. 😬
Setting boundaries requires good communication skills. It requires being able to express your needs and limits clearly and assertively, without being aggressive or passive-aggressive. This is a skill that many people struggle with, but it can be learned and improved with practice! 😊
Setting boundaries at work involves several steps. The first step is to clarify your needs and limits. Think about what you need to do your job effectively and maintain your well-being.
This might include having uninterrupted time to focus on your work, not checking emails outside of working hours, or not taking on tasks that are not part of your job description. 📧
Once you have clarified your boundaries, the next step is to communicate them clearly. This involves expressing your needs and limits assertively, but also respectfully. It’s important to explain the reasons for your boundaries and be open to discussion and negotiation.
The final step is to enforce your boundaries. This means sticking to your limits, even when it’s uncomfortable or difficult. It also means dealing with boundary violations assertively and constructively, without resorting to aggression or passive aggression. 😇
Maintaining boundaries with coworkers can be particularly tricky. Here are a few tips to help.
Firstly, lead by example. If you respect others’ boundaries, they are more likely to respect yours. 🤷♀️
Secondly, be consistent. If you enforce your boundaries sometimes but not others, people will get confused and may not take your boundaries seriously.
Finally, remember that it’s okay to say no. You don’t have to agree to every request or favour. It’s okay to prioritise your own needs and limits. You deserve it. ❤️
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Unfortunately, even with clear communication, boundary violations can still occur. When this happens, it’s important to address the issue promptly and assertively. 🤷♀️
Start by calmly explaining the problem and why it’s a problem for you. Then, suggest a solution or alternative. If the violation continues, it may be necessary to involve a supervisor or HR.
At the end of the day.. you can’t make someone listen to you. So somtimes going above thier head is the only thing left to do. 🤷♀️
Management plays a crucial role in reinforcing workplace boundaries. They can set the tone for the workplace culture, provide clear expectations and guidelines, and model respectful behavior. 🤗
They can also support employees in setting and maintaining their boundaries, and intervene when boundary violations occur.
Here are few examples of what management should be doing:
In conclusion, setting boundaries at work is a vital skill for maintaining your wellbeing and productivity, and fostering positive work relationships.
It’s not always easy, but with clarity, communication, and consistency, it’s definitely achievable. So don’t be afraid to stand up for your needs and limits. You deserve to work in an environment that respects and supports your boundaries. ❤️
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“If you want to change your life you have to raise your standards”Tony Robbins
Do you know what it means to raise your standards & what it takes to do so, so that you can live a life that you can look back on and say “Damn! I did that”?
Well, keep reading Sis.
How you’re currently living your life is a reflection of the standards you hold for yourself at this very moment. They are the SET behaviours that you regularly choose to do all the time.
Sadly, a lot of people say “I SHOULD” do this a lot more than they say “I MUST” do this. There’s an endless list of all the things you SHOULD do in your life to make it better, but usually, it gets left to slip through the cracks and be forgotten about. When you make something a MUST in your life you will be willing to cut off any liabilities and distractions that will get in the way of you succeeding and will 100% find a way or make a way to get there. No excuses made.
High standards are what separates high achievers from everybody else. If you have high standards, you are more likely to achieve the goals you set out for yourself, this is because with every goal comes a certain set of requirements that you have to meet in order to achieve it. These requirements are reflected in the personal standards you uphold in relation to that goal.
When you have high standards you have a higher expectation of yourself, you are naturally willing to do more than the average person, which subsequently raises your standards of performance.
Sometimes it takes hitting rock bottom in order to feel that you have to shift your should into a must. Maybe you said “I really should make more money” then a couple of months pass and you experience some hardship on the way and you realise that you’re left with £1.09p in your bank account with no savings, in debt up to your eyeballs and about to lose your flat. A situation like this can finally make you think enough is enough and convince you to make lasting drastic changes to the standards you hold to yourself.
Finally acknowledging that something must change is an essential first step to change. The change won’t be easy as there’s no quick way to change your current beliefs. Just how it took time to create them (both good and bad) it will take time to build new ones. Even if you try to fake it for a while you will eventually go back to your core limiting beliefs. Rushing internal work will never work.
Jim Rhon: “The things easy to do are also not easy to do” – In Layman’s terms, the things you should do are things that are easy to do, hence why you don’t do them.
Your appearance: Are you happy with your weight? Are you happy with the condition of your skin?( If it’s in your control of course)
Finances: Do you pay your bills on time? Does your salary reflect the value you give to your employer? What does your spending habits look like?
Relationships: How do you allow others to treat you? Do you allow people to not treat you how you deserve?
Accomplishments: How often do you achieve the goals that you set? Are you currently settling for an average life because you don’t think you can achieve more?
Your appearance, how much money you make, what your current relationships look like right now and your accomplishments are all examples of your current standards for yourself. Having low standards will only take you so far in your journey towards living your best life. With low standards, you will struggle to put in the energy and find the resources needed to achieve what you want in life and subsequently you will end up with sub-par results. When you raise your standards you raise your expectations of yourself and from the people around you.
To raise your standards you need to have a strong WHY. In other words, what is your reasoning to raise your standards? For example, saying you want to lose weight because everyone you know is trying to lose weight isn’t a strong enough reason. However, saying you want to lose weight so that you can live a longer, healthier life and see your children grow up and be there for them is a prime example, as the reason resonates with you personally, meaning you’re more likely to stick with it.
In order to raise your standards, the first step you would need to do is ask yourself “What are my standards right now?” What are you allowing to happen in your life? Sometimes we fall victim to letting ourselves off the hook because we set ourselves goals that never become a need.
Additional questions to ask yourself:
> What will I accept and no longer accept of myself?
> What standards do I have for the roles that I play in life (Parent, friend, Partner etc)
> Did I set these standards myself?
> Given the goals that I would like to achieve are my current standards hindering me in any way?
> Are my current standards getting in the way of me developing in any of the 8 core areas of my life?
The biggest reason people hate commitment is that when you commit to something (especially when you commit to other people) you HAVE to deliver. When you settle for just “trying your best” you give yourself lower expectations, making it “alright” if you don’t follow through with it because you gave it your “best shot”.
You’re unlikely to ever sink below your standards but how far are you willing to rise above them?
Raise your standards in these 4 areas of your life to help drastically improve the way you live:
Improving the state of your health is so important. Being healthy isn’t all about drinking green juices and eating kale 7 days a week. Imagine being energetic in the morning, ready to take on the world with a spring in your step and a smile on your face. Raise your standards on how much sleep you get, how well you take care of your body and how well you eat and it will take care of you.
Distraction is the absolute worst, it steals both your time and energy – your two greatest assets. Be more focused on what you want, every minute, every hour, and every day. Bring your awareness to this very moment right now. What do you want to be experiencing and doing? Being more focused allows you to be more conscious of your surroundings and make it easy to spot distractions.
As much as talking to new people and creating new friendship groups are awesome it’s important to be careful with who you spend your time with. Who you socialise with will have a great impact on what kind of life you would like to have.
As Jim Rhon once said, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with”.
Attitudes are contagious, be really picky with who you invest your time in. Your friends should shower you with support, exude positivity and have ambition.
Nobody’s perfect and everyone has bad days and flaws, learn to accept them if you feel that you both will help each other grow and are compatible with each other. When you free yourself from negative people, you are free to be you.
Healthy thoughts = Healthy actions. If you want to put quality thoughts into your mind you must create an environment that outputs positive energy.
If you raise the standard of your mindset you will be mentally strong enough to deal with failures and setbacks allowing you to conquer anything you put your mind to.
What happens when you commit to keeping your standards high:
> You increase your sense of self-efficacy
> You begin to believe in yourself more because you’re starting to achieve the goals you set yourself
> You attract more opportunities because you have more clarity behind your actions
> You become more self-aware of your current reality, allowing you to make clear and conscious decisions on your next step
> A higher chance of succeeding at anything you want
When you take steps towards becoming an enhanced version of yourself, you ensure an increased level of confidence, self-respect and self-discipline.
When you’re committed to being all in, you will see through whatever you set out for yourself no matter what obstacles or bumps happen along the way. Your high standards and WILL to succeed in your goals and objectives will be the motivation needed for you to continue on your journey.
You don’t get what you WANT in life. You get what you TOLERATE. Once you raise your standards, your life will rise to meet them.
No longer will settling be part of the norm. You will achieve ALL of your Plan A’s because Plan B’s are for people who aren’t willing to sacrifice and give up who they currently are for who they need to be.
This is the year of the breakthrough. Act like it.
Remember: Obstacles will equal opportunities to grow.
Heather’s top tip: Demand excellence from yourself. You’re a force of nature that deserves nothing but the best. Never give up and most of all raise your standards and never settle.
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